And he thinks that its okay to cheat coz nobody is perfect. I wanna break this relation but i am thinking about the kid. Hes hiding sh!t, hes lying to you and girlfriend, hes cheating on you. If you want to know how to do this too, go to his Google search box and type every single letter in the alphabet ONE at a time. Everything the exwife told me about her husband and this woman is happenning to me now .Is there anyway I can get this man to leave me and move in with this woman, My husband paid lobola for me, but we have not finilised the traditional ceremony, but he is seeing his snons mother behind my back, Hi Im going through enough with my life as well Ive been talking to this guy for almost 2 years now he always told me he loved me an did almost anything for me then i found out he was married an now have a baby on the way i been involved with him for to long now i dont no what to do i no i need to call the quits but how someone help please. If your relationship with him were in a safe situation you wouldnt even be questioning his behavior you would know right off the top of your head if he were crazy in love with you. I said, I know the relationship looks like more than it is but he has assured me that they are,just friends. Apr 21, 2013. I dont get it. He has made pictures by taking real life people and searching the internet and putting real people on nude bodies. He brings me presents, buys me shoes and takes me out more. my only regret is that I didnt smarten up sooner. He asked me out a week or 2 later, and we hang out almost every day, and he picks me up. She is right.follow that feeling 2 inches behind your belly button. I still feel like this is cheating either way. Imagine me at my doctors asking for VD testing. I am sorry to hear about your situation. I left him last week. I am so lost and need resolution I think before I can walk away? Your husband has been running you into the ground & you are a clever, articulate, spirited woman!! I see you posted on 4/8/15. I know EXACTLY what you mean .. that nagging feeling .. it is thegut instinct I keep reading about here .. Your marriage is sacred, and when your husband chooses to violate it, it leaves you feeling all kinds of emotions. 3John2, Been there too honey.weve been married 20 years and have 3 kids so I understand the place youre coming from. Ive been with the same man for almost thirty years, and really do hate to break it to other women, but men cheat. Forgiving and learning to trust again is a long process. Then deeply breathe and say really? Yet he was earning nothing, in fact it was costing him to go to the office every day, money we didnt have, with a brand new baby to care for and yet as far as he is concerned, it is my fault. Such BS. If your suspicions are not confirmed, breathe and live on together. when i got pregnant he made an appointment for me to abort it despite him being so religious and pious (the main reason I married him). I dont know why but for the first time in being together for 9 years I felt uneasy. Amen. Because he made me so happy and treated me and my son really good. Sorry for anyone having to go through this. You never really stated just how you feel though so I cannot be sure. I found out by placing a tape recorder in the house and in his vehicle. He told me he doesnt want that stuff around his child and i told him to stop drinking and as soon as i said that he said show me where to sign my rights away and you can go back to flolrida.. then i cry blah blah blah he gets over but i didnt and he is nice to me. but any time I confront him now he gets very angry and very defensive. We moved onwards from there, but it always felt like something was wrong. This is an opportunity to find who you are and what you like; in doing this you will find the one who really knows and appreciates you. He would only hug if he wanted sex. Its devastating. So, be real. And it was probably wise not to confront your husband immediately, without first trying to gain additional information. I just found out that my husband cheated on me last night which he told me he was working late. Has had several FB conversations that made my jaw drop, telling one of his old friends (female) I am crazy, hes stuck, hes stuck between a rock and a hard place because of our child, he would prefer a single life right now, I dont love him the same. So am I a cheater? Ive always had trust issues woth anyone and everyone there are very few ppl i trust when i say few i mean like only two ppl come to mind. I just found out my ex husband has been dating someone he met at work while we are married. It took my friend 6 years to forgive her husband and learn to trust him again after he cheated. You are the one that counts the most, never let anyone take advantage of you. On the one hand anything Ive brought up hes addressed. I also pray for your fiance, that he is willing to dig into his feelings of boredom and needing a spark, and that he can find that spark in his relationship with you. If he were truly unhappy, he should talk to you about his feelings and see if you cant work through it. Then I realized that since he had a vasectomy, he probably didnt wear a condom. Due to financial problems, him and I were living with his parents the last few years and in early October of this year, I moved out. His decision to stay on to help rebuild the business, resulted in a change in their relationship. what are your thoughts on this situation? He never did. are you both in couselling course? Hi Stephanie- it seems to me that you really dont have a question for your husband; you seem certain that hes cheating. Thats the scary part.I ignored what I felt in my belly for years, I tried to hope and pretend it wasnt happening or that it would change. I looked at him and with a heavy heart I said okay. Ive been ruminating and hurting my feelings with my thoughts for months. There's only one way to know if your partner is cheating: Nope, it's not by thumbing through their text messages and emails. Im so sorry you have to go through this. The latter finding might seem counterintuitive, Milhausen said, but other studies have also found this connection. If youre confused about whether your husband is lying about cheating, then you need to believe his ACTIONS over his words. I had found years ago where he was emailing two different people talking to them. Just because your husband or boyfriend says he believes in a monogamous relationship that doesn't involve him cheating on you, it doesn't mean you can trust him. I try to move past it but its in my mind everyday. He hardly ever touches me or becomes intimate with me even before we became pregnant. You may not need to embark on couples therapy but maybe you and your husband need a little guidance on communication, trust, boundaries, and expectations. Well I began to ask questions and my husband kept saying I was crazy and how I was always accusing him but I have always been right about him. It sounds like your gut instincts are telling you that something is up with your husband. He mentioned a list of requirements that he has for a partner. My heart goes out to you. his freinds are no saints. I kept it to myself but now I realize all the pain I was holding in for years contributed to a lot of our problems..I always felt empty so I filled my self up with destructive behaviors..Gambling , drugs,etc..and he hated me for hurting him unaware that i had been hurting for many years which ended up causing him to stray..our lack of communication . And, your children will be devastated. Y E S! What do you think about talking to a therapist, just to sort through your issues? People getting married. Well he mustve said something to her, because shes since blocked me and taken herself off of his fb page which made me feel a little better but hed been talking to her the entire time weve been together. My husband is in Mexico hes been there these past 3yrs now. Stay hopeful, stay connected to people who are supportive, and stay connected with God. So I asked him to take her home to her boyfriend. With just a few of your husbands basic details to get started, this tool can produce a wealth of information about his recent communications. We went and the night before the party we were all drinking and at a indoor pool having a get together. Then I saw he was texing the pictures to other friends right after getting them (work hours). My relationship with my husband was rocky from the very beginming which was early 2002. We are Gods blessings to those in our lives that we love. I aint crazy well not for someone lying and cheating heck I have enough problems why would I try to hold on to someone disrespectful to me especially like that? His problem is he is constantly suspicious of me and waiting for me to pay him back even though I have assured him I wont. While he was reserving the room, the womans mom called and said she was going to come to our city and spend the night with her daughter because she didnt trust my husband when he said that he was not going to spend the night with her daughter. In June 2015, he did not come home one night. Dont HATE the other woman/womenhes your husband who made vows to you..the other women didnt make vows to you. I feel crazy, insecure, confused, helpless, and cheated on and lied to. Perhaps the main reason behind my husband thinks he does nothing wrong is the need to defend himself. Nothing short of traumatic head injury can (should?) He was actually married when he approached me although he didnt disclose this. My husband has been having an affair for over a year and a half. Dear Crazy Lady, Don't predicate your healing on what your ex does or does not do. I dont buy the boss part, Im not a moron. He tells me he never wanted me to find out, that he never wanted to hurt me. 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